It is a marathon - not a sprint

The world is moving fast. Yes, I know that the world has always been moving but in recent memory it has become faster. Everyone nowadays wants everything to happen instantly. High Speed Internet connections, social media, 24hr news, live video games, drone deliveries – all of these mean that we are not used to waiting anymore, we have forgotten the art of patience or as my mother would put it – ‘you do not know what it means to be bored!’

I think she has a point.

It has taken me a few days to get used to my new routine of staying at home. I can no-longer play football, I can no-longer go out to see friends, I can no-longer physically go to work. I am at home, by myself doing what I can and trying to think of ways to fill my time. Work done – check, friends called over the internet – check, what’s next?

Usually what’s next is an argument with my 5 year old about trying to complete a piece of work set from school. I am the head of Pre Prep, he should do this and I should be able to get him to but it is hard – there is just so much else going on in the world to worry about.

What I have been learning is this. He is doing the set work, just maybe not when I expect. He is doing his reading, but not when I expect – he is doing it when he is in the right frame of mind, when he is ready to learn. What I think I keep forgetting is that all the things that are troubling me are also playing on his mind – (no playing football, no seeing friends, no school) and he needs time to adjust, just like I do. We need to find our new routine, the one which works for us all.

It is not going to be perfect overnight and the answers to this situation are not instant in any way shape or form. Finding a schedule which works, understanding our role in this period of time and working out how we deal with our new ‘isolated’ situations from both a physical and mental well-being point of view is challenging. It takes time to normalize – it is a true marathon and definitely not a sprint.